Acknowledgments: for Wednesday Martin for writing Untrue about why women are getting so fed up and her theory that MeToo was about women who were jealous of men’s sexual entitlement because they— like— want the right to do the same things or something, which I noticed myself at the time and I abhorred it because I didn’t think it would be good if women became like Harvey Weinstein because no one should be like Harvey Weinstein but I guess that’s the scary direction we’re all going in, and I guess it can be kind of fun, the really left wing girls coming onto me in college as much as they claimed to hate men I understand a little better now; for the old ladies in the supermarket I liked complimenting more than anyone’s mom seriously; for anyone who was cheated on or cheated or thinks about it or the people fascinated with this because their parents divorced when they were young because someone cheated; and for the women who are strangely exhilarated when I tell them I wrote about myself as a neurotic to the point of being tortured pick-up artist, but it’s not that strange a phenomenon so never mind: first it’s a hilarious concept, second it’s cool, and third it’s damned timely—there are a million of us, and if you can’t tell about Musk or Trump or “pride” parades in your conservative town, everyone is a libertine now and libertinism is sort of the spirit of the age, not that I endorse any of this—I think I’m actually a pretty mean critic of it as sympathetic as I am to it in a way